How To Live a Happier Life: A Few Helpful Tips
Updated: Nov 18, 2019
How to be happier in life.
Where are you on the 'Happiness Ladder'?
How would you rate yourself on life's "happiness ladder"? Are you at the top rung, feeling happy almost every day? Or are you anxious, negative, and worrying most days down on the bottom rung? Perhaps you’re somewhere in between? No matter where you are on that ladder, if you'd like to learn some easy things to do for living a calmer, happier life, please read on for a few self-help tips that may be the boost you need to make some noticeable changes in your happiness.
The Blame Game.
Let's talk about our thinking patterns first. Negative thinking is definitely the biggest killer of anyone's happiness. For many it's easier to blame someone or something else for their lack of happiness, but understand that happiness is an inside job. In other words, no one is responsible for our happiness but us.
So How Can We Change Things?
The first thing we need to do is repeat the following statements out loud to ourselves every day:
"I am the only one responsible for my happiness. By changing my thoughts, I can be as happy as I decide to be."
Next, we need to start becoming very aware of our thoughts. Think of it as an exercise; the more we do it, the stronger we become. Most people just let their thoughts run amok inside their brains day and night letting them affect their moods. Instead, we are going to start identifying every negative thought as soon as it pops up.
"My boss is driving me crazy!" or "My coworker is so annoying!" As soon as we recognize a negative thought, we are going to picture a big red STOP sign to end that thought and immediately think of three positive thoughts instead.
Make them easy like, "I am grateful I have a job.", "I am grateful I am able to pay my bills., "I am grateful there are donuts in the breakroom." Take a few moments to really feel each positive statement. Then take a deep breath in, and let it out while setting the new thoughts in place.
Once we get good at catching every negative thought and replacing it with three positive ones, we will begin to notice how much calmer we feel afterwards. Suddenly, whatever the co-worker and boss were doing won't seem to bother us much any more.
Realize that with every negative thought that flies through our brains, we have a choice of how to react to it. We can dwell on the anxious feelings we usually allow to take over in those situations or say, "No!" take a deep breath and let it go. As we let go of those negative thoughts and anxious feelings, we can ask ourselves, "Is getting mad and lashing out right now really going to improve this situation?" Probably not, and it may make things worse.
"But, what if those people are really at fault?" We may say. "Don't I have the right to be mad?" And I would answer, "At what cost?" Revenge is not our job. If we value our peace of mind and becoming a happier person, we must learn to let negative things go as soon as they appear to take away our peace and calm.
I speak from experience as one who used to lash out at people if I felt attacked. In 2007 everything began to change when I started studying the Law of Attraction which teaches that we are energetic vibrational beings and we get more of the kinds of things we think about. So, if we have mostly negative thoughts, we will receive more negative things in our lives. And if we have mostly positive, happy thoughts, we will receive more things to be happy about. It may sound too simplistic to some, but it worked beautifully for me. Things didn't change overnight, but with daily exercises and affirmations of changing angry or negative thoughts into positive ones, I eventually started reacting differently to those situations because I had rid myself of fear, anxiety and anger.
My personal journey.
It's been 12 years now, and I am a different person. I love my life. I love all people as one with me - even those I don't agree with. I allow everyone to have their own opinions without trying to change them. I surround myself with like-minded people and do the backstroke when I come in contact with negative ones. I stay away from movies and TV shows that bring my happy vibration down, and am very aware when anything negative tries to enter my mind so I can let it go right away.
I am retired today and pass on positive, happy, uplifting postings daily to a large Facebook following that helps people live their happiest lives. They, in turn, uplift and keep me happy. It's a wonderful way to live. I hope you'll decide it can be for you, too.
Jill Cora Anderson is a retired hippie lady known as 'the girl with kaleidoscope eyes' since she is only seen online wearing kaleidoscope glasses. She manages two Facebook pages featuring positive posts https://www.facebook.com/jillcora.anderson and another page called Hippie Advice for a Happy Life https://www.facebook.com/hippieadvice .
She invites anyone who would like to learn more about how to live a happier life to join in the fun on Facebook. Happy blessings!